Just a Fling?

Despite being one of the primary messages Core Confidence advocates - it can be assumed that 'Self Love' is simply the new buzz word flying around town. Behind green juices, headstands, and the latest diet craze, Self Love can be mistaken for the next transient fling in the health industry. But before you move on to your next wellness one night stand - here is why I believe it to be the real deal

I Understand what Self Love is

(kind of...) 

"Self-compassion means being gentle, kind and understanding with yourself. Accepting that you are not perfect and that there is potential for learning and growth in every mistake you make" (Neff, 2003). 

Kristen Neff developed the modern concept of Self Love, also known as Self Compassion. By loosely trying to understand its meaning it is easier to see how Self Love plays an important role in retaining a healthy mind set and therefore why it's important to form a long term commitment to it.  

Core Confidence uses its platform to explore the meaning of Self Love with our audience. We promote its concept to assist in forming personalised tools and strategies to discover the best way Self Love fits into your life and how to utilise it to be content. 

However, when delving in to the topic - like any psychology and philosophy - it can often become overwhelming and confusing. 

Which leads me to: 

I Understand what Self Love is to me

(most of the time…) 

"You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.”  Buddha 

Through research and experience I have been able to simplify the concept of Self Love in terms of what it means to me - how I practise showing myself love and affection. Ensuring kind thoughts about myself are circling in my head is of importance. However certain Self Care activities provide the catalysts for promoting these thoughts and my “Inner Bestie”.

Ever changing and ranging from something as little as enjoying a cup of tea in bed to going for a nature walk to getting my hair done, the choices are diverse and very personalised. Alongside this, irrelevant of what Self Care activity I’m undertaking - I get the most benefit when doing it mindfully. Living it in that moment and acknowledging it for what it is - both help to increase the advantages of the activity itself.  

By understanding what Self Love is and more importantly what it is to you, you can start to see the benefits it provides in your every day life. Perhaps you'll even consider making the relationship official 😃  

Although - flings can be fun  ☺️  

Although - some (wellness) flings can be fun ☺️  

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Neff, K. D. (2003). The Development and Validation of a Scale to Measure Self-Compassion. Psychology Press, 2, 223-250.